ʻO ka mea aloha mua

He manaʻo ko kēlā wahine kēia wahine e pili ana i ka pilina me ka wahine'ē. A i ka hapanui o nā hihia, he mea paʻakikī ke hoʻololi. Ma hope o ka haʻaleleʻana me kahi kāne, hiki i ka wahine maikaʻi ke hana i ka hanaʻole, no kekahi manawa. ʻO kekahi mau wāhine e hoʻomalu i ka pilina ma waena o nā mea aloha mua, nā mea'ē aʻe - mālama i ka hōʻino a me ka huhū no nā makahiki he nui. No laila, he mea paʻakikī loa ka loaʻaʻana o nā pane i nā nīnau e pili ana i ka hana ponoʻana me kāu mea aloha a me keʻano e hana ai me kahi mea aloha mua. E ho'āʻo mākou e hoʻomaopopo i kēia nīnau paʻakikī ma nā hiʻohiʻona o nāʻano maʻamau.

Inā he kanaka hoʻokahi ke aloha a me ka kāne mua

ʻO ka hoʻomauʻana i ka pilina maikaʻi me ka wahine ex-'eleʻa he paʻakikī no nā wāhine he nui. Ma kēiaʻano, ua hui pū nā mea aloha mua ma ka moe wale nō, akā, ma nāʻano'ē aʻe'ē aʻe o ke ola. ʻAʻohe mea e kono e pili i ke kāne, akā,ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana i nāʻenemi,ʻaʻole pono.

I mea eʻole ai ka pōʻino, he mea nui ia e hoʻololi i kouʻano e pili ana i ia. ʻOiaiʻo ka mea nona ka manaʻo o ka haʻalulu,ʻo ka wehewaleʻana eʻikeʻiaʻaʻole he hopena kaumaha, akā,ʻo ia ke kumu o ka wā hou i ke ola. Noho mau ke ola i nā hoa mua ma hope o ka haʻaluluʻana, no laila, he mea nui e mālama i ka hanohano a hikiʻole ke hōʻeha i ke kāne i ka manawa kaʻawale. A laila,ʻo ka hālāwai i manaʻoʻoleʻia e waihoʻia i nā hōʻailona maikaʻi, ma kahi o ke kaumaha.

ʻO nā kānāwai o ke kaʻawaleʻana me kāna mea aloha

Ma kahi i hoʻoleiʻia ai ka mea aloha,ʻo ka mea nui no kēlā wahine kēia wahine e hoʻopunipuniʻo iaʻaʻole i huhū. ʻAʻole pono ka lōʻihi o ke aloha o ka mea aloha ma mua o kou ola - he mau hebedoma, mahina a mau makahiki paha. I kēia manawa, pono i ka wahine e hoʻomanaʻo i nā hālāwai a pau a hoʻoholo i kona maikaʻi me kēia kanaka. Inā lawa ka mediocre, e hele. Ināʻaʻole, he mea nui e nānā i kekahi mau kānāwai i ka wā e mahele ai:

  1. Mai wehewehe i ke kumu maoli o ka halau. ʻAʻole ponoʻoe eʻike i ka pilina a ho'āʻo eʻike i ka inoa o ka mea kū'ē. ʻAʻole makemake nā kāne i kēlā hoʻoneʻeʻana, no laila,ʻo kaʻikeʻana i ka pilina e hoʻomaopopo hou iā ia i ka pololei o kā lākou hoʻoholo. Aʻo ka wahine ma hope o ka haʻaleleʻana i kāna wahine aloha i kaʻuhane, e kaumaha a kaumaha loa.
  2. E manaʻo i kahi timeout. Ināʻae ka mea aloha i kēia, ināʻaʻole paha i kūpono kāna kohoʻana a hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻihoʻi.
  3. E paipai e hoʻokuʻi i ka pō hope loa. Hana i kēia pō i poinaʻole no kāu kāne. E hoʻolālā i kekahi mau lā ma kahi moe me ia a, malia, e kānalua pahaʻo ia i ka pololei o kāna'ōlelo hoʻoholo.

He kāne a he wahine aloha

He mea maʻalahi kēiaʻano i waena o nā wāhine o kēia wā. Inā hōʻoia ka wahine i kēia mea i loko o kona ola, a laila,ʻaʻole e pono i kekahi keʻeha i ka mihi,ʻoiaiʻaʻole e hōʻike kokeʻia kāna kēmu. ʻO ka manaʻo loa: "He aloha kaʻu"ʻaʻole ia e hoʻonā i nā manaʻo, ma ke alo o kāna kāne.

Inā he mea nui i ka wahine ke hoʻomau i ka pilina maikaʻi me kāna wahine aloha a me kāna kāne, a laila, pono e noho mālieʻoleʻo ia ma kekahiʻano. Pono ka wahine i ka launa me kāna kāne ma hope o ka hālāwaiʻana me kāna wahine aloha. Ināʻaʻole, e wikiwiki ana ke kāne e kanalua. Eia kekahi,ʻaʻole pono i kekahi ke hoʻonele i kāna kāne,ʻoiai inā ma hope o ka huiʻana me kāna wahine alohaʻole ke kāne i nā meaʻoluʻolu a pau. Nui loa nā manawa e hoʻomaopopo koke ai ke kāne i ka luhiʻana o ka wahine ma hope o ka hālāwaiʻana me kāna wahine aloha, a ma hope o ka hana.

He kānāwai nui -ʻaʻole e pili ana i kahi o nā mea aloha mua i ka wahine,ʻaʻole pono e haʻiʻia i kāna kāne, akā he nui aku, e hoʻokomo iā lākou. ʻOiaiʻo ka pilina me ke aloha mua i kāohiʻia i loko o ka hala i hala.

Hui pū me kahi mea aloha

Inā he hoaaloha ka mea aloha mua,ʻaʻole heʻenemi, a no ka nui o nā wāhine, hālāwai ka hālāwai i manaʻoʻoleʻia. Akā, ma hope o ka pō pōʻino, pinepine ka luna o ka wahine maikaʻi i ka hoʻomakaʻana e lanakila i nā hihia likeʻole. Ma kēia kūlana, inā makemake ka wahine e hoʻomau i ka pilina me ke aloha mua, he mea nui eʻole eʻae i ka ho'āʻoʻana eʻike i ka pilina, aiʻole e nīnau i nā mea i hala. Hiki i kēia mau wehewehe ke hana i ka hālāwai hope loa.