He mea nui no kēlā wahine kēia wahine eʻike i ke aloha iā ia iho, no ka mea,ʻo ka kaikamahine i hoʻowahāwahāʻole iā ia iho aʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻokiʻekiʻe iā ia iho, hikiʻole iā ia ke loaʻa he hoa hana e mahalo iā ia, e kūkulu i kahiʻoihana a paʻa paha i ka pilina ikaika me kāna mau keiki pono'ī.
He aha ka manaʻo e aloha iāʻoe iho no ka wahine?
'Ōlelo pinepine nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao iā mākou i ka mea nui loaʻo ka nohoʻana me kaʻoluʻolu meʻoe,ʻoiai, e alakaʻiʻia e kekahi manaʻo o haʻi, e kūkulu i kona ola, aʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i ka hauʻoli maoli. Hoʻomaopopo ka hoʻonaʻauao i ka nīnau o keʻano o ke aloha me kahi wahine,'ōlelo nā poʻe akamai he pono e hana i kēia mau mea:
- E hana i kahi papa inoa o kāu pono pono'ī a mālama mau i kaʻike. No laila e hiki ai i ke kaikamahine ke noʻonoʻo i kona mau pono pono'ī, ma mua o nā hemahema, nā manaʻo a me nā mea maoli.
- Ke hoʻomau mau neiʻoe i kāu mau makanaʻuʻuku,ʻaʻole e uku,ʻo ke kumu o kēia hana e hoʻomanaʻo mau e loaʻa iāʻoe ka uku no nā mea āu wale nō,ʻaʻole no kekahi mau hopena.
- E ho'āʻo e noʻonoʻo i nā hanana i loko o kou ola ka hoʻomakaʻana o kou hopohopo iāʻoe iho. He mea paʻakikī kēia mea no kāu iho, no laila inā hiki, e hoʻokaʻaʻike i kahi mea lapaʻau. Eia kekahi, i ka hikiʻole iāʻoe ke loaʻa kahi psychologist maikaʻi a hele i kahi hālāwai hoʻonaʻauao, hiki iāʻoe ke kūkākūkā me kēia mea i alohaʻia, e like paha me kahi hoaaloha. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole like kēia me ka loaʻaʻana o ka kūkākūkāʻana, akā, hiki hiki ke hoʻokō i ka hopena.
- Pono e heluhelu i nā puke no nā wāhine e pili ana i ke aloha iāʻoe iho, ua hāʻawiʻia nā hōʻike maikaʻi maikaʻi i nā hana i hala iho nei - E. Mikhailov "ʻO wau iho ma kaʻu iho", M. Litvak "Inā makemakeʻoe e hauʻoli," S. Mamontov
"ʻO keʻano o ka noʻonoʻoʻole," G. Moore "aloha iāʻoe iho."
ʻO kekahi nīnau e hopohopo nei i nā kāne he nui keʻano o ka wahine i aloha iā ia iho. ʻO ka manawa pinepine kēia i ka huliʻana o nā meaʻepekema i nā kānaka i makemakeʻole e hoʻomanawanui i nā hōʻeha o ka huāhuā o kā lākou hoaaloha,ʻaʻole loa lākou e hilinaʻi iā ia no ka manaʻoʻole. Inā makemakeʻole ka kaikamahine iā ia e hoʻololi i ke kūlana, hoʻokahi wale nō mea, e haʻi mau ana iā ia i ka mahalo, e ho'āʻo ana e hana i nā meaʻoliʻoli maikaʻi a me ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia i kēlā lā i kēia lā e nani kona helehelena. ʻO ka mea'ē aʻe,ʻo ke kanaka me ke kōkuaʻole o ke kaikamahine,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana, akā,ʻo kēia mau hana maʻalahi paha e kōkua i ka hoʻonuiʻana i ke kūlana no ka maikaʻi.