Pehea e mare ai i ke kāne iā ia iho?

ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i kekahiʻano, no ke aha e hoʻohālike - heʻohana lākou, ma kahi o ka hoʻopaʻa inoaʻana i ko lākou pilina? Me he mea lā heʻohana ko lākou,ʻaʻohe pono e hana i kekahi mea'ē aʻe, no ka mea, ua hui pū lākou. A laila e noʻonoʻo ana ke kaikamahine e pili i ka mareʻana iā ia iho, pehea lā e hana ai i kēia kanaka i ka manawa hope, e hāʻawi mai a kau i ke apo?

Ka Papa Mua: E nānā

ʻO nā kānaka, he poʻe hahai holoholona lākou, aʻo kā lākou waiwai pio he mau wāhine. Aʻo waiʻoe?ʻO ka hopena hou i loko o ke kaʻina o nā lanakila a iʻole ia no kāna hoa kāne, a nāna e hāʻawi iā ia e mare iā ia - he mea nui iā mākou keʻike! Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua maʻalahi nā kaikamāhine i ka hoʻolālā o ke kanaka! No laila, e nīnau iāʻoe iho i nā nīnau 7 aʻikeʻoe - he mea pono anei ke mare i kēia kāne iāʻoe iho - ma mua o ka liloʻana o kou poʻo ma ka hopuʻana i kāna pūnaewele:

  1. E lawe i ka helu o kāu kelepona,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i hoʻihoʻi i ka lā aʻe a iʻole e kāhea kokeʻia?
  2. Ua pilikiaʻo ia i kona hālāwaiʻana meʻoe, aiʻole hiki mai i kahi manawa?
  3. Ke hoʻokuʻu neiʻo ia i nā haʻalulu kūpono, makemake wale i ka pili meʻoe, aʻimi paha e hoʻomaopopo i kou mau makemake a me kou mau pono, kāu mau waiwai a me nā pahuhopu?
  4. Ke mālama nei paha kāu mau koi a iʻole pahaʻoe e makaukau i ka hoʻoloheʻana iā lākou, inā he mea nui kēia iāʻoe?
  5. Ke hūnā neiʻoe mai kouʻohana, nā hoaaloha, nā hoahana a i hoʻokomo muaʻia paha i kouʻohana?
  6. Hōʻoleʻoe e hele i kāu hui aiʻole i kou mau mākua aiʻoleʻae paha e hālāwai me lākou?
  7. Ke manaʻo neiʻo ia e kamaʻilio kūkā ana i nā keiki a noʻonoʻo paha e pili ana i kahiʻohana e hiki mai ana.

Inā nānā ka mea āu i koho ai a hoʻolohe pono iāʻoe, mahalo iāʻoe a nānā i kāu mau koi, hele pū meʻoe i nā hālāwaiʻahaʻaina a me nāʻahaʻainaʻohana aʻaʻole e hūnā i kou pilina - e ponoʻoe e ho'āʻo e male i kēia kanaka, no kona mahalo iāʻoe aʻaʻole makemake e nalo iāʻoe .

Ka Papa Hanaʻelua: Ka weheweheʻana i keʻano

He nui nā wāhineʻaʻole maopopo i kekahiʻano: no ke aha lākou e kakali lōʻihi ai, no ke aha i loaʻaʻole ai kahi manaʻo o ka mea aloha a ponoʻole iā ia e noʻonoʻo i ka pehea e mare ai iā ia iho? ʻEkolu mau pane i kēia mau nīnau:

  1. Ua mare mua kāu kāne i kekahi.
  2. ʻAʻoleʻoeʻo ka wahine āna eʻimi nei, a makemakeʻo ia e mare.
  3. ʻAʻoleʻoe i haʻi aku iā ia ua makemakeʻoe i ka maleʻana aʻaʻoleʻo ia i koi iā ia e mare iāʻoe.

ʻAʻole hiki i nā wāhine keʻae i kekahi o kēia mau pane. Ke hopohopo nei lākou eʻike i ko lākou lanakila, hopohopo lākou i kaʻike i kaʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka mea e pōʻino loa ai lākou, i ka hopena, ua paleʻia lākou e ka makaʻu i ka hōʻole a me ka noho hoʻokahi. Eia naʻe, no ka'ōnaehana o kahi ola pilikino ola nui he mea nui eʻike i nā mea a pau e pili ana i kou pilina.

A inā maopopo iāʻoe ke alohaʻo ia iāʻoe aʻaʻohe pilikia i ka maleʻana - e hana i ke kolu o ka manawa e mare i kāu kanaka i alohaʻia, no ka mea,ʻaʻole pahaʻo ia eʻaʻa.

Ka Papa Hanaʻekolu: Manaʻo

Uaʻike nā kānaka a pau: ka maleʻana a me kaʻohana -ʻo kēia ka pilikia. A uaʻike lākou i kēia manawa e hiki koke mai ana iā lākou. Akā, no ka hapanui o lākou,ʻaʻohe mea e wikiwiki ai,ʻoiai, inā noho mālie kā lākou wahine aloha aʻaʻole'ōlelo iki e pili ana i ka maleʻana. No laila, ponoʻoe e hoʻoholo i nā mea āu e makemake ai - e nānā ma kahi o ka mea aloha a kāne paha; e mare iā ia nou iho, no ka mea, ke kali neiʻo ia iāʻoe, a kali paha iā ia e hana a hana paha iā ia iho? Ehia ka lōʻihi o kou kaliʻana? I hoʻokahi makahiki,ʻelua paha, a heʻumi paha? Nui? ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka haʻi i kāu kāne:

"Aloha wau iāʻoe nui,ʻoʻoe a me kaʻu hana maikaʻi,ʻaʻole wau i moeʻuhane. A'ānō, makemake wau e mare iāʻoe. Makemake wau e noʻonoʻoʻoe e pili ana i ia mea ae hoʻonoho i kahi lā no kā mākou maleʻana. A hiki i ko māua mareʻana,ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hauʻoli loa. "

ʻOi aku ke aloha ma mua o ka makaʻu

ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hikiʻole ke hoʻoholo i kēlā mau kamaʻilioʻana ma mua, no ka meaʻaʻole pono nā kāne e haʻi aku i nā kāne e makemake lākou e mare me lākou. He mea maʻalahi ke ola me kahi kāne, a hānau i kāna mau keiki, a koe wale, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe ona manaʻo e hana i kaʻohana? No ke aha e hoʻolimalima makahiki i kahi mea e likeʻole iāʻoe? ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noi i kēia manawa e hanaʻo ia e like me ke kanaka a eʻikeʻo ia ināʻoe e mare iā ia a hoʻokuʻu paha iā ia, no ka meaʻaʻoleʻo ia i aloha iāʻoe aʻaʻoleʻo ia e like me kāu.

Mai makaʻuʻoe i ka lilo. Inā hōʻole -ʻaʻole kēia kanaka. Inā alohaʻo ia iāʻoe, e kūlouʻo ia iāʻoe.