Nā Hōʻailona o ke Aloha

I ka makahiki 20 wale nō, ua komo hohonu nā mea kālaihana a me nā haumāna psychologist a aʻo i keʻano o nā manaʻo likeʻole ma waena o nā wāhine a me nā kāne. ʻAʻoleʻoe e hele i nā mea haʻi waiwai, e aʻo hou e pili ana i ke aloha. Ua hiki i kaʻike'enekala hou ke haʻi nui aku, e like me ka mea i loaʻa nā hōʻailona o ke aloha.

He mea pono eʻikeʻoe heʻeonoʻano o ke aloha. Heʻano likeʻole lākou, akā, heʻano'ē nā manaʻo e hoʻopiha ai ia mau mea. No laila, ma nā moʻolelo a pau,ʻo keʻano o ke aloha e like me pragma, agape a me ka hale kūʻai e pili ana i ke aloha, aʻo nā lyudus a me nā eros e pili ana i kekahi mea e like me ke aloha o ke aloha, ka mania, a me ke aloha.

Nā hōʻailona o ke alohaʻoiaʻiʻo

Nui nāʻano o ke aloha a ua paʻakikī lākou a pau i ko lākouʻano pono'ī. Ua māheleʻia lākou i ke kula nui a me ke kula kiʻekiʻe.

Aia nā hōʻailona o ke aloha mua i kēlā me kēia kanaka,ʻoiai ināʻaʻoleʻo ia he hoa paʻa mau. Eia kekahi laʻana, e hōʻikeʻia kēia ma ka makemake o ke kaikamahine e nānā mau i nā mea likeʻole, e hoʻokomo i nā mea nani, e nānā i kāna hana make-up. I nā'ōpio,ʻo nā hōʻailona mua ke hoʻopukaʻia ma mua o ka wahine. No laila,ʻo ka hōʻailona mua o ke aloha i nā kāne,ʻo ia ka hōʻailona o ka hoʻonaniʻana. Inā, i ka wā e kamaʻilio pūʻana meʻoe, nānā ka meaʻokoʻa i ka laina o kāuʻokiʻoki no ka manawa lōʻihi, a laila,ʻikeʻoe e hiki iā ia ke manaʻoʻiaʻo ia he wahine hiki.

ʻAʻole ia he mea nuiʻole ke kuhikuhi aku i kēia mau hōʻailona i kaʻikeʻoleʻia i nā kāne makua, a me nā wāhineʻelemakule e hōʻike ana iā lākou iho me ke kuko makemake e paʻi i nā pies no nā kāne a lākou e makemake ai.

ʻO nā hōʻailona mua o ke aloha kiʻekiʻe eʻoi aku ka manaʻo. I nā kaikamāhine, hōʻike lākou i ka loli wikiwiki o ka naʻau,ʻaʻohe lālā māmā i waena o ka momona a me ka hiliʻiʻole, a me keʻanoʻole, he makemake e hahai i nā manawa, e nānā ana i ka uaki. I loko o nā wāhine makua, hōʻike lākou iā lākou iho i ka mākaukau e nānā i ka maemae o kāna mau mea, i ka ho'āʻoʻana e hana i nā mea kanu mea kanu.

I nā wahine, ka poʻe i piha i ka makahiki he kanakolu,ʻo nā hōʻailonaʻelua o ke aloha nui e pili ana i ka wahine. ʻO nā wāhine i aloha nui i ka manawa hoʻokahi e hoʻololi i ko lākou helehelena, ka lauoho, ka lole, kaʻaʻahu, ka meaʻala.

Ma nā keikikāne, hōʻikeʻia nā hiʻohiʻona lua i kekahiʻano naʻaupō, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomana i ka mea o kā lākou hoʻohiwahiwa, hāʻule hina i ka'ōpiopio a hana e like me nā keikikāne. Ke hōʻikeʻia nei hoʻi kēia mau hōʻailona ma keʻano koʻikoʻi o ke kanaka'ōpio. Uaʻikeʻiaʻo ia he nui nā mea e pale ai i kona hauʻoli.

I nā kāne makua, ua hōʻikeʻia kēia mau hōʻailona ma keʻanoʻoiai, i ka wā e kipa aku ai, kokoke lākou e pāhola, me he mea lā ma ka home, ma luna o kahi moe. Akā,ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailonaʻelua i hele maiʻo ia i ou lā me nā pua no kahi hālāwai. ʻO ka puaʻa,ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o ke aloha. Aka paha he mea'ē paha keʻano,ʻaʻole nā ​​kīʻai o ke alohaʻoiaʻiʻo i ka baleka i hāʻawiʻia iāʻoe, a pēlā aku. Akā, inā eʻaila kekahi kanaka ma kou hale, ponoʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana.

Nā hōʻailona nonverbal o ke aloha

ʻO nā hōʻailona koʻikoʻi o keʻano o ke aloha,ʻo ia keʻano o ke kanaka o ke aloha.

  1. No laila,ʻo ke kanaka aloha i ka manawa e hoʻoikaika aiʻo ia e noho ma kahiʻoihana o ka wahine (ma kahi o kahi 1-1.5 m mai ona aku).
  2. ʻAʻole ia e kānalua, akā, e hoʻopunipuniʻo ia e pili anaʻo ia i ka mea koho. Mai ka wā'ōpiopio, heʻano maʻamau kēia hana no nā kāne.
  3. No ke kanaka i aloha, pili nui. I ka wā mua o ka kūkākūkāʻana, ua hakakāʻo ia, ua'ōleloʻia he meaʻeʻehia, e hōʻeha i kekahi wahine, e like me ka hāʻawiʻana i ke kīʻaha ti.
  4. A no nā wāhine, he mea kūpono ke hoʻonāwahi i ko lākou mau maka, i kekahi manawa e kiʻi iā lākou mai lalo iho o nā puʻu.
  5. E like me nā kāne, hiki i nā wāhine ke pale aku i kā lākou mea aloha. E like me kēia mau wahine he mau wāhine wale nō.
  6. ʻAʻole i nānā nā wāhine i hoʻopiʻiʻia i kahi kanaka i makemakeʻia. Ke huiʻia ko lākou manaʻo, hōhilahila, hiki i ka hōʻikeʻike, ke nānā aku.

ʻO ke aloha kahi manaʻo maʻalahi. E noʻonoʻo i kou mau manaʻo, kou mau manaʻo, mai kānaluaʻoe i ke aloha me ke aloha, maiʻaeʻoe e hoʻopunipuniʻia e nā manaʻo.