Ma ka moeʻuhane, hiki i ke kanaka keʻike i nā kānaka'ē aʻe: nā pili, nā hoaaloha, nāʻenemi, nā malihini, a me nā mea aloha pū i mua. I kekahi mau mea,ʻaʻole e halihali nui kēlā mau moeʻuhane i kekahiʻike, e like paha, inā uaʻike mua kekahi mea moe i ke aloha mua a iʻole ka manaʻo no kēia mea. Ināʻaʻohe kūpono, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaka e wehewehe. I kēia hihia, he mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i nā kikoo hiki ke hiki, eʻikeʻia kaʻaoʻao.
He aha ka mea e hiamoe ai ke aloha mua?
ʻO keʻano mau o ia moeʻuhane he hōʻailona ia e hōʻea i ka manawa e hoʻopau ai i nā hihia i hoʻomaka muaʻia. ʻO kahi aloha mua paha e hiki ke hōʻike i kekahi mau hana e hiki mai ana e hihia ai i ka neʻeʻana i mua. No ka wahine mare, he moe e pili ana i ke aloha mua,ʻo ia hoʻi, ma ka pilina me ka wahine,ʻaʻohe mea maʻalahi e like me kā mākou makemake. Inā maikaʻi keʻano o ka moe a me ka pilina me ke aloha mua, a laila, e manaʻo mākou i nā loli maikaʻi i ke ola. I ka wā o ke aloha mua e hōʻoluʻolu ai i nā manaʻo, ua hoʻohiki ka moeʻuhane i nā pilikia a me nā pōʻino koʻikoʻi.
ʻIkeʻia i loko o ka moeʻuhane ke aloha mua i kū ma muli o ke kōkuaʻana o kekahi mea'ē aʻe he hōʻailona ia ma ke ola maoli e kū'ē i kahi kanaka. Ināʻike ka moe a kekahi kaikamahine aloha i ka pō o ka maleʻana, a laila, e pōʻino ka piliʻohana. No kaʻike i ke aloha mua i loko o ka moeʻuhane, a laila, ma hope koke iho, ponoʻoe e hālāwai me kekahi kanaka mai ka wā i hala. ʻO ka hihiʻo pō, kahi i kū ai ka pilina me ke hoa mua, hoʻounaʻo ia i ka hoʻomakaʻana o kahi pilina hou a hauʻoli. No ka mea maʻi, ka moeʻuhane o ka mareʻana me ka wānana aloha mua
No ka moeʻuhane ma ka moeʻuhane i ke aloha mua, a make maoli nō ke kanaka i kahi hōʻailona e pili ana i ka pilikia. Inā kāhea aku kekahi loea aloha iāʻoe, a lailaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka nānāʻana i kāu olakino. ʻO ka hihiʻo o ka pō, kahi e'ōlelo ai ke aloha mua i kekahi mea, hiki iāʻoe ke lawe no ka'ōlelo aʻo he maikaʻi ke nānā aku i kou mau wahi, no ka mea, aia kahi kanaka e makemake e hanaʻino. ʻO kaʻikeʻana i ke aloha mua o ke kanaka me ka moeʻuhane ma kahi papa'ōmaʻa, he hōʻailona maikaʻi ia, eʻike ana i nā loli maikaʻi i ka pae honua. Inā he pouli a he weliweli ka wahi o ka heleʻana, a laila, pono e noʻonoʻo i nā pae a me nā hua'ōlelo, no ka mea, hikiʻole i ka mālamaʻole ke hoʻonāukiuki me nā mea pili.